Friday, January 14, 2011
Freaky sex - crossing the freak line... what is too much?
Hello and happy Friday to you, woot!!! Friday blogs are probably going to be your favorites because I'm going to talk about a "Freaky Friday" story or topic. I'd love to hear from you and what you'd like to talk about.
Today's Freaky Friday blog is a true story that happened to The Single Mom and it is one that I still cannot believe. Please know that The Single Mom is not a prude at all. We all have our range of activities in the bedroom (or out of it wink, wink) that we are comfortable with. I've definitely experimented more since being single and have learned a lot. I joke that I have run into every freaky fetish that I know about, except those that are totally nasty. Some I wish I never knew existed... yikes.
A few years ago, I met a sweet, somewhat younger man online, "Studmuffin08". He was probably 12 years or so younger and seemed like a great guy. We talked awhile and went out on a date on which he was a perfect gentleman. After the second date, I invited him in for a drink and we ended up making out on the couch. He was very good looking and well built and I was extremely attracted to him.
At that time, I had a small terrier who was terrified of strangers and would hide under my bed when anyone was over. Well, one thing led to another and we ended up in my bedroom, mostly kissing very passionately and our hands were all over each other. This horrified my dog who now wouldn't stop barking. We tried to ignore it and we were kind of chuckling about it between passionate kisses.
Things are getting more and more steamy and we are touching each other very intimately. This is going on for several minutes and Studmuffin08 says, "Choke me." I'm pretty confident in what I'm doing and I say "I am. Do you want me to do it harder?" Then he says, "No, I mean like this..." putting my hands on his neck. (WTF??? Huh?) Then he says, "Tell me you hate me and are going to kill me."
Ok, so the dog is still barking like crazy and this guy asks me to choke him and tell him I'm going to kill him... I got nothin' for that, seriously. I can talk so dirty that it could make wallpaper peel down off of the bedroom wall, but telling someone I'm going to kill them? I have no game at all for that. This ended our evening and I didn't return his calls after that.
So, you have your basic spanking, hair pulling, stuff like that... ok sure.. but choking and threatening to kill someone? I'm out. I knew this stuff existed and I knew there was a special porn category for this, but I guess I never expected to run into it.
It brings me to ask, can a relationship work if both partners like totally different levels of freakyness?
Happy weekend, get your freak on... whatever that means to you!
The Single Mom