For the two weeks before and after Christmas, I had 6 ex boyfriends contact me trying to get back together. It became really comical and truly kind of annoying. It does happen to me a lot and I rarely consider reuniting when it does. Perception of person changes after missing someone, so I try to be real with myself when it does happen.
It was good reconnecting with "Scooter58", it had been awhile, and somehow conversation trailed off. I thought I had sent the last text and he swears he did. That was several months ago and it really didn't matter too much now anyway. Over the holidays we saw each other online on the dating site we met on originally a couple summers ago, so he said hello. He asked if he could text me again and I said of course. He admitted that he had been creeping me on Facebook but was too shy to say hello.
We texted a bit, he wanted to go out , I had plans. He texted me again for later in the week. I was tentative because I'm a little sick, and not sure I want to make a date. He tells me to call him, and I can tell he is irritated that it took me a couple of hours to do so, reminding me of one our issues the first go around... I have two teenage boys and he has never had kids. He is in his early 50's and is an amateur pilot, loves to scuba, travel, etc. Basically the polar opposite of my current lifestyle. Also, since he has never had kids he was always a little narcissistic and impatient when I had to put my kids over him.
After our brief chat ends, I try to recall the sultry summer nights we spent together, the cute way he laughed and what a great person he is. I'm not sure if I will see him again but I'm trying to keep an open mind. My approach to dating this year is to be more careful and I'm trying to see where it goes. While I'm reaching up high on the top shelf for the cereal my boys like, I get a text from a girlfriend:
GF: Hey, wanna go to a Superbowl party hosted by a bunch of cops?
I think 2011 is going to be a great year no matter what!
The Single Mom
Do you think it is smart to go out with an ex again? Does it work to date someone who has never had kids if you have, especially in our 40's and beyond?