Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Find a Date on Facebook? Good Luck with That

Within just a few clicks on Facebook, you can enter a new world of checking out potential dating prospects.   

I’d seen these ads on Facebook so many times and finally decided to see what it was all about.  Of course my first question was that it wouldn’t show up on my Facebook page so that everyone would know I was doing it.  Check.   

Secondly, it was free so I decided to check it out.  If nothing else so that I could check it out and let you know about it.

A couple of clicks later and I was in business, several pictures of men in about my age range popped up on one side of my screen.  I’m not one to make a first move and I didn’t want to go through  pictures; I just wanted to see what kind of response I would get.   So, after just a few minutes, I closed my laptop for the night and truthfully forgot about it.

In the morning, I awoke to a slew of messages and pictures of men who “like me”.  
Basically how it works is that someone can see your profile picture, click on it and see a very abbreviated version of your Facebook profile.   It’s basically your first name, age, city and some of the interests that are filled out on your profile.   It’s really basic stuff, maybe the version that you pay for has more data, I’m not sure.  However,  the free version doesn’t give away a lot, which is a good thing.

Anyone interested in your picture and profile can click that they like you, send you a message, a virtual gift (which is like a cheesy badge) or a wink.  

I was honestly surprised at the amount of mail I had the next morning which was good.  However, a lot of them weren’t feasible because they lived out of state or even out of the country, or were just even close to being someone I’d be attracted to.    

I’d say the ratio of men I could realistically be interested in was about 1 out 10.  Again, I’m not extremely picky but for example, one of the men who contacted me looked like Santa’s twin, sitting down backwards in a chair trying to pose in a sexy way.  A couple of them were a LOT older than me, one had his picture taken without a shirt (which wasn’t really a good idea), one guy looked like a total hillbilly, his face turned to the side smoking a cigarette, another was sporting a handgun.   I’m not saying I have to have perfect, but these dudes were not even close. 

After a few days of doing this it was sad to see how many of them would send me multiple messages several days in a row, trying to somehow change my mind.  It was really pathetic, truth be told. 

I kept thinking that ok, I’m doing this for research so I could just give it a shot and see if there was anyone “normal”.    There were a couple of men that seemed nice enough and lived in my city at least, so after they had clicked that they “liked me” I did the same.  You then become a “match”,  whatever that means. 

So, I did start to talk to someone and he was attractive and “normal”.    We eventually traded phone numbers, became Facebook friends and even went on a date.  I’ll have to tell you more about that next time…

Thanks for reading and I hope you’re having lots of romance and passion in your life!


The Single Mom


DavidRayDog said...

Thank you for the information and analysis. Very informative.

Jenniffer said...

Ooooh... I know what site you're using.. my estranged husband is on it! LOL! Actually- many of my friends are..
I can't wait to read what happened.. I feel like I've been playing catch up today. I've been so cut off lately..

Smile Singlemomma- It looks good on you! :)

single mom dating said...

I remember some sort of applet Facebook had (maybe they still have) about finding out if people liked you on facebook and would be interested in getting to know you romantically. The problem was the applet featured people all over the US. Although I am currently in a LDR (it's a 2 1/2 hour drive) I couldn't imagine finding people I am interested in states away.

Were the men local gents?

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